From a young age, I’ve always had a deep love for psychology. The human mind fascinated me, and I knew I wanted to explore it further. However, my journey wasn’t a straightforward one. As a child, I struggled academically.
It wasn’t until university that I was diagnosed with dyslexia, a moment that explained so much about my past challenges. This is a reality for many others, where undiagnosed learning difficulties shape their early experiences without them even realising it.
University became a time of self-discovery for me. I spent three years not just studying psychology but also understanding my own difficulties and finding ways to improve. I was excited to graduate, but when the day finally came, it didn’t feel as special as I had imagined. I felt strangely deflated.
Determined to find that sense of fulfilment, I decided to continue my studies and pursue a master’s degree. Yet again, the same feeling crept in. Graduation day came and went, and I still didn’t feel the satisfaction I was chasing. At that point, I told myself, Well, I’ll just have to do a doctorate.
Life, however, had other plans. My son needed me, and my focus shifted. Years later, I decided to train as a psychodynamic counsellor. This time, there was no grand graduation ceremony to mark the end of my training. And yet, for the first time, my heart felt whole. This was what I was meant to do. It wasn’t about one big day of recognition, it was about the journey, the purpose, and the work itself.
Looking back, I realise that I had been chasing the wrong things. Subconsciously, I think I wanted to prove something to myself. But no degree or title could ever give me the validation I was seeking. The truth is, success isn’t about a single moment or achievement. It’s about finding what makes you come alive, what feels right for you.
If there’s one lesson I’ve learned, it’s this: don’t chase a feeling. Success and fulfilment come from living authentically and embracing your journey, struggles and all.
For anyone who faces challenges like dyslexia, know this: your difficulties do not define you. In fact, I’m incredibly proud of my dyslexia, it’s a part of who I am, I do not keep it a secret. I share this to inspire others and show that, regardless of the challenges, you can pursue your studies and achieve your goals if it’s something you truly desire.
Some people might believe that academic success is the ultimate measure of worth. Of course, education can be valuable, but it isn’t enough on its own. True success requires drive, self-esteem, and a sense of purpose.
So, to anyone reading this, especially those who feel they’ve struggled or fallen short: don’t let societal expectations dictate your path. Embrace your uniqueness, follow your passions, and remember that your journey is yours alone. Success isn’t about proving yourself, it’s about finding what makes your heart feel whole.